Hear What Oprah Winfrey Had To Say About Men

I recently came across a very interesting article and I decided to publish it on African Super Woman Facebook Page. While, the response from the ladies were amazing and I have decided to publish it on the blog too. The following message is from Oprah Winfrey

"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for  man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or Spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you cant "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If yo feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.., he will use it against you later.

You can not change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more eduction or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more and nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someones man. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending....,Compromise is a two way street. You need time t heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage....Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary......not supplementary.

Dating is fun.....Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr Right. Make him miss you sometimes....When a man always know where you are, and you are always readily available to him.., he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never- co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful; Dr Phil says....You should know that; You are the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he will miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he is not the only one. They are all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make a right one. Ladies, take care of your own hearts.

By; Oprah Winfrey

GEMSTONES; The meaning of the stone on your finger.

There are lots of different types of gemstones in the world and they all have different meanings. Sometimes i think its important to know the meaning of things. we want to know the meaning of baby names, the meaning of flowers etc and I just want to share some of meaning of precious gemstones stones.

AMETHYST
It is a power stone, protection stone, wisdom stone, healing stone. If you use Amethyst as meditation focus, the positive spiritual feelings will increase. The stone also helps overcoming fears and cravings. It also helps with headaches. Amethyst can also be be used as a dream stone and to help insomnia. Put an amethyst under your pillow to bring about pleasant dreams.

EMERALD
Emerald is a stone of great harmony, wisdom and love. It is also been known as a symbol of hope and many consider it as a stone of prophesy and in Christian faith, it is the symbol of faith and hope. Some cultures have thought that emerald would heal all kinds of eye diseases, just put in a container of water overnight and the water would be poured on the eyes the next day. The emerald stone is a stone of great harmony, wisdom and love. Giving your lover an emerald will bring the lover closer if the givers motive is pure love. The Emerald can be  bridge between two people. The emerald vibrates with love.

GARNET
Garnet is a stone of purity and truth as well as a symbol of love and compassion. The Garnet will help everyone's security level and spiritual awareness. Here is something that i found strange and amazing at the same time about Garnet, it is believed that if your business is going down, just put 3 garnets on your desk and tala..! Also, if you put it under your pillow, it will cure depression. Garnets can also make a person popular and have self-esteem when won as jewelry. Garnets bring constancy to friendships and are also known for success in business. It can also help increase the sex drive (mmmmmm,how about that people)

AMBER
Amber is not really a gemstone or mineral but a fossilised sap from prehistoric trees that has aged over a course of millions of years. Early physician prescribed Amber for headaches, heart problems, arthritis and a variety of other ailments. In ancient times, amber was carried by travellers for protection. To early Christians, amber signified the presence of the Lord. In the far East, amber is the symbol of courage. In Asian cultures regard amber as the "soul of the tiger". Egyptians placed a piece of amber on the casket of a loved one to ensure the body would forever remain whole.

RUBY
The ruby is considered to be the most powerful gemstone in the universe, and it is associated with many astral signs. To own a ruby is said to have contentment and peace. 
Actually the colour of rubies varies from vermilion to red and the most desired and common colour is "pigeon's blood", no wonder it is believed to help with the flow of blood as an aid to circulation. It aids the cleansing and the removal of infection or germs in the blood. Ruby rings should be worn on the left hand so as to receive the life force and have protection. Given as a gift, the ruby is a symbol of friendship. The ruby gemstone is also filled with love and it also helps sexual love to be more passionate. Persons lacking in self-love should have and meditate on the ruby. It also gives the courage to be best potential that a person has.

CITRINE
Citrine has been called "the stone of the mind". In ancient cultures, it was believed that placing the stone on an elderly person's forehead would increase his psychic power. Citrine is is known also as lucky " Merchants Stone". If you are in any type of sales, just put a citrine in the cash drawer and watch what happens. Also used by healers to; increase self-esteem, protection from the negative energy from someone else's abuse, open the mind to new thoughts and promote clarity of thought. Cintrine will give joy and love to the owner.

AQUAMARINE
The aquamarine stone is the Stone of sailors, believing it would be protection for them on water. It is called " Water of the Sea" because of its colour. Folklore says the aquamarine will protect against gossip. It is an excellent stone for meditation. Aquamarine is most powerful as a meditation stone as it brings a great peace and serenity. Some people can meditate on an aquamarine to receive the wisdom to see the truth, but this is a very advanced meditation. The Romans used the aquamarine for diseases of the stomach, and believed it can cure liver and throat troubles.

FAMOUS CELEBRITIES WITH A ZAMBIAN HERITAGE...Mizinga Mwinga

Well, i didn't know much about this Hot born Zambian Candy till i did a Little research about him and i was amazed with what i found.

Mizinga Anthony Mwinga, was born on the the 3rd of January 1980 in Lusaka, Zambia to a British mother and a Zambian father. When he was 3years old, he moved to London, England and lived there till he was 9. He then moved to Montreal, Canada. He grew up between Montreal and England. He then decided to attend collage in London, Studying Engineering. He wanted to take an English course but it was full and someone suggested that he should try An Introduction To Theatre and Dramatic Arts, he did and he discovered his true passion for acting. He later joined the full two year Theatre and Dramatic Arts programme.

After he completed his studies, he did several plays in various London Theatres at the end of it, he took a break from acting and he decided to travel the world. He visited several countries and cities and through that he developed an interest in different cultures around the world. He then returned to Montreal some years later where he re-discovered his passion for acting and story telling. His big breakthrough came when he landed himself a role in the movie "War Witch" as Grand Tigre Royal, a Congolese rebel. The Movie was a success and it was nominated for the Oscars in 2013.

Mwinga on the set of War Witch

FAMOUS CELEBRITIES WITH A ZAMBIAN HERITAGE...Julia Rose

Julia Rose

Julia Rose is an actress and she has guest starred in many American television shows such as Star Trek: Enterprise, Code Monkeys, NCIS and CSI: NY. She has also appeared in movies like The girl With The Dragon Tatto in 2011, Eel Girl in 2008, Reign of the Gargoyles 2007, Crimson Force in 2005, The Perfect Sleep 2006.

This beauty was born in Lusaka, Zambia in 1973, her father a career Diplomat and her mother a stage actress in Paris where she moved when she was a child. She holds a Degree in Diplomatic History.

 

 

FAMOUS CELEBRITIES WITH A ZAMBIAN HERITAGE...Rozalla Miller

Rozalla Miller is a dancer and a music performer. She was born in 1964 in Ndola, Zambia. She is best known for her hit Everybody's free (to feel good) . She started performing at a very young age in Zambia, performing in clubs and pubs. The at the age of 13, she was singing on a children's TV show. While still in her teens, she relocated to Zimbabwe, while in Zimbabwe, she fronted various R&B cover bands before beginning her own recording career. In 1988, she moved to London under the wings of an English producer and manager Chris Sergeant.

Rozalla Miller with Micheal Jackson

She also toured with the king of Pope Micheal Jackson in the 90s, opening all of his performances on the European leg of his Dangerous tour

Well known albums include;

Everybody's Free-1992,

Everybody's Free-Style remix-1993,

Look No Further-1995,

Coming Home-1998,

Best Of-2003,

Everybody's Free (Special Edition with DVD)-2004,

and the Brand New Version 2009.

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THE RICHEST WOMAN IN AFRICA...,Folorunsho Alakija

Folorunsho Ajakija is reported to be the richest woman in Africa and the riches black woman in the world! Beating the talk show queen Oprah Winfrey on the ladder. Folorunsho Alakija is worthy about $7.3billion while Oprah is at $2.9billion this is according to Ventures Africa .

The Nigerian 63 years old billionaire started her career as a secretary in a bank in Nigeria before she quite to go and sturdy fashion and design in England. She returned to Nigeria after her studies and founded Supreme Stitches, a fashion label that catered the high class women in society. But her breakthrough came in 1993 when her oil company Famfa oil which was awarded an oil prospecting licence which later became OML 127. OML 172 is Nigeria's most prolific oil blocks. The company produces about 200,000 barrels per day. Famfa Oil which Alakija controls has 60% in OML 172.

Folorunsho Alakija                                 Oprah Winfrey

Alakija

The most Expensive Shoes in the World!

Ladies, Iknow how much we love shoes, Personally have more pairs of shoes than cloths. I know someone who has about 500 pairs of shoes and still counting! Shoes are just something that makes you look and feel like princesses Cinderella. Sometimes we buy shoes and never wear them..,we bought them simply because they were looking really good at the shelves in the store and we imagined how they would look on our shoe stand. I love shoes so much that i have planned to have the biggest shoe collection in my ''little world''.

OK, so Ilove shoes and Would wear the same clothes and over again as long as i have a good pair of shoes on. This is how much Ilove shoes and you will agree with me ladies ...the real shoe lovers, that once you see a good pair in a store..,your heart just jumps and you wont stop thinking about it for hours or days and you will even tell your friends about that shoe. Yes, it is a woman's crazy world that a pair of a shoe can just take her on top of the world, Lets look at some of the most expensive shoes in the entire world!! Crazy price tags..,You must really own this world to own shoes like these.

MY TOP 10 MOST EXPENSIVE SHOES

These are Harry Winston Ruby slippers. PRICE; $3,000,000

Nizam Sikandar Jah Slippers. PRICE; $160,000

Stuart Weitzman's Diamond Stilettos. PRICE; 500,000

These are Christopher Michael. They are made with over 2,200 solid gold and about 30 carats. PRICE; $1,555,000

 Kathryn Wilson Shoes. PRICE; $276,237

Roger Vivie's Dovima Shoes. PRICE; $46,420

Stuart Weitzman Shoes. PRICE; $1,600,000

Stuart Weitzman Shoes. PRICE; $3,000,000(CRAZY...!)

Stuart Weitzman shoes. PRICE; 1,000,000

Stuart Weitzman Shoes. PRICE; $2,000,000

I guess its OK to dream once in a while...,Every girl's dream is to have a few pairs of great shoes but at these prices, i would say "welcome to the DREAM WORLD... ;-)

SOME OF THE MOST EXPENSIVE WEDDING DRESSES IN THE WORLD!

COST ABOUT $1.5MILLION

COST ABOUT $380.000

COST ABOUT $8.5MILLION

COST ABOUT $80.000

COST ABOUT $400,000

COSTS ABOUT $12 MILLION

SHOES..,ARE WE GOING NUTS?!!!

 

  Ladies, i know its all about fashion in the 21st century but are we going nuts? its crazy because some of these shoes are surprisingly very expensive. Alright, am not going to be the judge of this but this is insanity at a whole different level in the fashion world! Like most or all the ladies out there, i love shoes and i think i am an expert in shoes (at least in my head heheheeh) i actually sale shoes but these ones will not be finding themselves on my shoe rack  :-) 





They are beautiful in there own ways, they just make you wonder a bit on how creative minds can take you. like they say, only the sky is the limit and in this case, not even they sky is the limit. I think the designers of these kind of shoes go beyond the skys.  

Its all about FASHION .....and ART I guess.

Take your pick for the weekend party, do you want to wear some spaghetti or maybe a rate on your feet? Its up to you lady. Its all about fashion and art.

This is for all you shoe lovers!

Really, rats? you wear these then you will be the cat's B

Go wild and just get lost in the dream world of strange shoes.

Can you really walk in these? Anyway, like i said...am not judging..hehehehe!

LADIES..,YOUR PRECIOUS ROSE FLOWER AND YOU!..part two

While, I believe that the Virgina is the most precious and  the most sensitive part of a woman's body. God designed it in a way that it should clean itself just like the rest of the inside body e.g the skin, the tummy etc cleanses themselves so does the Precious Rose Flower...,Let me just borrow a paragraph from the professions..,just in case you disagree..,

Step away from the soap and harsh cleansers, gals. Your vagina keeps itself clean. “It’s lined by a variety of glands that produce the fluids needed to both lubricate and cleanse the vaginal area,” says Lisa Stern, APRN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles. “The vast majority of vaginal infections I see in my office are self-induced—generally by women who think they’re doing a good thing by washing their vagina with soap and water, or worse, with douche.” Bath products, particularly those with chemical dyes or fragrances, can irritate the vagina and wash away the beneficial lubricants and flora (bacteria and yeast) that are normal and natural, she says. When these beneficial compounds get washed away, anaerobic bacteria and yeast proliferate and can cause symptoms like discharge, odour and itching. Lesson learned: While a little mild soap on the labia area is OK, your body does a fine job of keeping the insides clean. 

Ladies, Have your say!!!