CURVILICIOUS..!

Curves, Curves, Curves!

Not so long ago, women were so pressured to be skinny..,because being skinny was sexy and if you have a few flash on your behind, you were considered to be FAT. Worse in the show business were you had a size 0 or whatever the smallest size there is to be considered sexy and beautiful. Women would do the impossible to actually be skinny and not to be called FAT. The catwalk models were the worse victims. I am curvilicious and i am an ex model so i know what i am taking about. I once heard some people calling me FAT from the audience when i was doing Miss Zambia Open University (it was a small pageant and the University had just been opened) some years back...,just because i had bigger curves than the rest of the girls...,that actually crushed me because back then i was weighing between 49 and 52kgs. My modelling       career didn't really go very far, but yeah..that was my experience. So yes, skinny was beauty. But today things have changed..

Hollywood is embarrassing curves and the whole industry is at the moment. We now models that are called the + Models...,these are models with curves and flesh on them. oh yeah, i can proudly say thank God for my curves. The industry is changing and the curvy women are making names for themselves in Hollywood for having the perfect bodies. And i would say there are women who are now going through a lot just to have some curves. we have women going surgeries...you know, putting silicon or whatever to enhance there hips and behinds...and we now have padded pants (scroll down and you will see a picture of them).

So, curvy ladies, lets embrace what God gave to us naturally. The A-List ladies like Beyonce, Tyra, Kim, JLo to mention but a few are doing it, lets join them and thank God for being curvilicious!

And if you are skinny or petite or whatever your body shape is..,be happy with it because as long as you are a woman, you are beautiful. Remember, women are the flowers of this world.                  

  

         

A WOMAN OF STRENGTH.

A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape...
but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

    A strong woman isn't afraid of anything...
    but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of fear.

    A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her...
    but a woman of strength gives the best of her to everyone.

   A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future...
   a woman of strength realises life's mistakes can also be God's blessing
   and capitalises on them.

   A strong woman walks sure footed...
   but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

   A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face...
   but a woman of strength wears grace.


   A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey...
   but a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that
   she will become strong.

SHOES..,ARE WE GOING NUTS?!!!

 

  Ladies, i know its all about fashion in the 21st century but are we going nuts? its crazy because some of these shoes are surprisingly very expensive. Alright, am not going to be the judge of this but this is insanity at a whole different level in the fashion world! Like most or all the ladies out there, i love shoes and i think i am an expert in shoes (at least in my head heheheeh) i actually sale shoes but these ones will not be finding themselves on my shoe rack  :-) 





They are beautiful in there own ways, they just make you wonder a bit on how creative minds can take you. like they say, only the sky is the limit and in this case, not even they sky is the limit. I think the designers of these kind of shoes go beyond the skys.  

Its all about FASHION .....and ART I guess.

Take your pick for the weekend party, do you want to wear some spaghetti or maybe a rate on your feet? Its up to you lady. Its all about fashion and art.

This is for all you shoe lovers!

Really, rats? you wear these then you will be the cat's B

Go wild and just get lost in the dream world of strange shoes.

Can you really walk in these? Anyway, like i said...am not judging..hehehehe!

LADIES, WHO ARE WE?!

Ladies, we were created as Super Women! We are strong, beautiful and we are not afraid of anything. We are the flowers of the world so it is said. we can feed the baby, talk on the phone, watch news and cook at the same time. We are Super Women by creation and that is never gonna change. But most of us don't actually know this fact. when it also comes to emotions, we are stronger than what we give ourselves credit for.

But even with this natural power that we have inside, most of us still don't know what we want. Care to ask yourself this question; WHAT DO I WANT? You will get answers within yourself as follows; marriage, family, kids, love, confidence, a new business, a new wardrobe, a car or a new car, friends, care, financial freedom, a house, success, a degree, travelling, new hair style etc. Take your time to discover yourself.

Just on this note; let me just say that most of us we are born originals but we die as copies (borrowed the words of John Mason), why is that? you may ask...,its because we don't know who we are and we live by what it is expected of us by society...,and sometimes we try to live other peoples lives. we copy their sense of fashion, we do what they do and if they post something on Facebook, we want to do the same too and if we see that they are living a certain lifestyle that we want...,we try to live that too.

Just discover yourself and know what you want from deep down your soul because that's what makes you YOU and that's what makes you unique and an ORIGINAL!

And whatever you want, no matter what it is, you can have it and you can be it.

SO, WHO ARE YOU LADY....?

LADIES..,YOUR PRECIOUS ROSE FLOWER AND YOU!..part two

While, I believe that the Virgina is the most precious and  the most sensitive part of a woman's body. God designed it in a way that it should clean itself just like the rest of the inside body e.g the skin, the tummy etc cleanses themselves so does the Precious Rose Flower...,Let me just borrow a paragraph from the professions..,just in case you disagree..,

Step away from the soap and harsh cleansers, gals. Your vagina keeps itself clean. “It’s lined by a variety of glands that produce the fluids needed to both lubricate and cleanse the vaginal area,” says Lisa Stern, APRN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles. “The vast majority of vaginal infections I see in my office are self-induced—generally by women who think they’re doing a good thing by washing their vagina with soap and water, or worse, with douche.” Bath products, particularly those with chemical dyes or fragrances, can irritate the vagina and wash away the beneficial lubricants and flora (bacteria and yeast) that are normal and natural, she says. When these beneficial compounds get washed away, anaerobic bacteria and yeast proliferate and can cause symptoms like discharge, odour and itching. Lesson learned: While a little mild soap on the labia area is OK, your body does a fine job of keeping the insides clean. 

Ladies, Have your say!!!

LADIES..,YOUR PRECIOUS ROSE FLOWER AND YOU!..part one

Ladies, we have been told so may things about our Flower. lots of myths too but there is just a few things that really bothers me and i would like to know if am the only one who is really bothered by the following things.

As African women and particularly Zambian women we are taught and told so many things about our Rose Flower. how we are to clean it and how to make it tight and feel small. People who teach us about these things do it with good intentions but the methods are what bothers me a bit. i will give you an example, there is this soap in Tanzania called the " Virgina soap" (someone once gave me some a few years ago,it looks suspicious. it doesn't even have a nice packaging). this soap is believed to reduce the size of your inside.., you have to inset it inside your Flower and let it stay in you for a few hours! ladies, this is a soap for God's sake...,its probably has never been clinically proven or anything like that. anyway, that's my opinion. we have people who insert ice-cubes and they insert all manner of things inside.

Am just wondering..., could these things we are busy inserting inside contribute to the Cervical Cancer that is rising among our women in our communities today? what do you.....? Have your SAY!

SUCCESS AND YOU part one

SUCCESS;

When you hear this word, your mind immediately races to MONEY. Yes, to most of us we link success to financial freedom or wealth but actually Success is more than that. I will try to write down what i understand about this great word. Actually my partner and i were just talking about it this morning and he said something that has stuck in my head about Success.

For me success is more than money and to be successful is more than just having a financial freedom or having wealth. Making other people happy and putting a smile on someones face is a success. being happy with yourself is a success, encouraging someone who is feeling low is also part of success, having a great and happy family is success, having a healthy relationship with people around you at work or school is success, the list is endless.

Lets look at the most people that we call "successful people", how many of them are actually happy? i am not going to mention any names...,do a survey yourselves but i will tell you one thing, only a few of these people are actually happy. For me you are not successful if you are miserable or if you make other people miserable no matter how much billions of dollars you are worthy. In this context, i say that being happy is the greatest success and happiness comes in many forms e.g doing something for someone like taking care of their dog, helping your parents with chores makes you happy then good ..that's great because not many people can do that.

SUCCESS IN BUSINESS

Just like i mentioned earlier.., success also means happiness. I believe that if you want to do a business and you want it to be a success, you should do a business that in lines with what makes you happy. for example if you love cooking, why don't you start a restaurant and give it all that you have. if you are a good singer, then sing. Basically we were all given some talents that we were born with by God, and these are the things that we enjoy doing everyday...,like singing, cooking, taking pictures, writing etc. Use that to become what you want to be. Let something that comes naturally to you bring you the success that you want.

And when it comes to business, don't underestimate the beginning. start from something small..,and start with what you have, it can not be much to some people but it is something to you. start with that and be happy with it. nature it and watch it grow..., that's your baby and once it grows and becomes visible to the world, you will be so proud and so happy and that is what i call success. 

THE THREE MUSKETEERS!!!!

I consider the following ladies as African Super Women. Behind all this beauty, there are stories..., stories that make them who they are today. They are part of my life and we sharpen each other pretty well. We like to think that we are the "THREE MUSKETEERS".

WE ARE THE AFRICAN SUPER WOMEN!!!!!

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!

She is STRONG, she is TOUGH and she knows exactly what she wants in life. She doesn't like the title of a house-wife anymore. she is tired of looking at the world from her great grandmother's point of view....,she is coming out very strong, vibrant and smart...ready to take over the world. she is ready to make a name for herself, she is tired of staying home and looking after the kids and taking care of her husband's needs.

She is going back to school. She wants to advance in her education...she is arming for a degree and a MasterS degree thereafter. She is taking the world by force and no one is gonna stop her. oh yes! she is married, she has 4 kids and she is taking care of her husband's two siblings...,and YES its a full house, its a lot to take but she can handle it. she is my....AFRICAN SUPER WOMAN!

My African Super Woman

Am going to give you many personal definitions of an African super woman. and like i said...,they are my own PERSONAL definitions. And one of them is as follows;

She is the woman you find on the streets selling vegetables and fresh fruits. she has been doing this for many years and you can trace the years on her face...,she has this dark patches on her face from the heart. She is known by many because of her gracious smile on her face as she sells her goodies. She always has this welcoming smile on her face that draws many to her stand. if you look at her smile, you might think she has no story to tell but behind her precious and welcoming smile, she has tales to tell.

She wakes up at 5am every morning to go and get the fresh goodies from the farmers. and by 8am, she is already at her stand and the vegetables and fruits are ready to be sold. She always carries this baby on her back and you all wonder how she manages with this baby..,you also wonder if the baby is hers because she is too old to have one. But just in case you want to know, the baby is for her last born daughter who became pregnant while she is still in school. And this precious super woman, can't let her daughter drop out of school because of that. So, she has taken over the baby and her daughter is back in school.

This African super woman has ten children at home she is taking care of and she is managing paying school fees for all of them through her business. Oh Yes she does. Three of her children are in collage, four of them are in high school and two are in Primary school. Plus the baby on her back needs porridge and milk everyday. Apart from all the expenses, she needs to make sure that her family is fed every single day. 

Where is her husband you may wonder, he is at home getting drunk everyday and he doesn't even care about anything. He wakes up with a bottle in his hand and he goes to bed with a bottle in his hand. That's her story and her children will be the Diplomats and high government officials.....,our future leaders.

She is my African Super Woman!